Single On Valentine? These Tips Will Help You Deal With Loneliness
Valentine day can come and have you feeling bad and with low self esteem especially when you are single and think your friends in relationships have it all sorted out.
Do not bother yourself, here are some tips to help you overcome loneliness.
1. Learn how to love yourself
Self-love doesn’t just involve your heart and spirit; it’s about taking good care of your body and mind. Learning how to love yourself – especially when you feel alone and lonely on Valentine’s Day ; it involves honoring your body in practical ways.
If you feel single and alone on Valentine’s Day, take time to be in your body. Notice how you feel when you eat certain foods, talk to certain people, get a certain amount of sleep. Learn how to take care of yourself in practical and specific ways.
2. Write down three things you really really want out of life
What are your relationship goals, career goals, physical health goals, life goals? Take 30 minutes to write down what you really want, think, and feel. Don’t just recite what you think you should want out of life. Instead, really dig into your dreams. What would you do if you weren’t scared? How would you live your life if you had courage?
If your goal is to be in a relationship because you’re tired of being single and feeling alone on Valentine’s Day, write down three things you can to do change your life.
Accept all the invitations, go on blind dates, spread the word to your family and friends, and take continuing education classes. You know what to do; you’ve read all the tips for single women who want to date.
3. Love your singleness
Think about all the marvelous benefits of being single, from not fighting over the TV remote control to being able to keep your living space as clean or as messy as you’d like.
Don’t fall for the hype that everyone’s paired off and happy as a result. There are many very happy single people but it’s just not currently fashionable to cover the happiness of being single in media or political discourse.
Write a list of all the good points about being single. For example, free time, no compromises on the home front, less responsibilities, etc. And think about how some of those good points might end when you get into a relationship. Focus on the benefits rather than harping on setbacks.
4. Treat yourself
. As you’re standing in the queue waiting to pay for your mundane everyday items, if you find yourself falling for the cute teddy holding a heart while wishing someone would send you a card, or you’re salivating over the box of heart-shaped chocolates, consider treating yourself instead of beating yourself up.
If that teddy is so cute you want it on your bed, give in. Or better yet, splurge on buying something you’d really like to have, like a bottle of perfume, a a pack of smoothies, or a recent book by a favorite author. Don’t make this day about hurt and loss. Make it all about love, even when single!
5. Be happy within yourself regardless of your relationship status
Romantic tales often suggest that another person can complete you, with common sayings such as “my better half”, “I cannot be the person i am without you”, and “our two hearts beat as one” being readily asserted with few people stopping to assess what that actually means. If taken too seriously, this unhealthy perspective can mean loss of independence, and losing yourself in another person.
That is hardly romantic! And do relationships equate with happiness ever after? Bear in mind that there’s no need to change who you are, or to lose your liberty or your habits when you’re single.
Rather than feeling down on Valentine’s Day, celebrate the strengths and achievements that testify to you being a whole and healthy person, a person who has space for love should it come along but who does not need such a relationship to create self-worth and happiness confidence.