Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out but this is a myth. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously and to get someone near you, in case you get your heart broken.
Here are a few tips in making sure your long distance relationship (LDR) works.
1. Find new things to talk about
Most couples in a LDR will go through periods where they struggle to find things to talk about apart from how their day was. This is because after a while, it gets tiring trying to keep conversation up.
When these times hit, put a bit more effort into finding new and fresh things to discuss. Find new hobbies, join a gym, discuss about these things.
2. Talk honestly about money
If finances are tight, money can become a major source of resentment–especially if finances are keeping you apart, traveling to see each other is expensive, and one partner has to spend a lot more money than the other to keep the relationship going.
Tackling this important topic directly can help avoid unnecessary assumptions and conflict. It would save you the time you spend hassling or fighting about who has to visit next.
3. Learn to recognize and control your own emotions.
Long distance relationships often involves intense emotions and sometimes difficult situations. There are times of intense loneliness, tears, uncertainty, doubts, and fear.
There are also times of extreme excitement, joy, and incandescent happiness. Learning to recognize, own, and manage your own emotions will pay off big time, both now and in the future.
4. Avoid situations where you may be tempted to cheat
Don’t put yourself in situations that will lead to extra temptation to cheat! Don’t start hanging out alone every weekend with the same attractive co-worker you have a crush on.
Don’t go out to bars with your friends and drink a lot if you know that you get extra tipsy after a few glasses of wine. What is the Bottom line? Know yourself. Know your limits, and then stay a couple of steps away from those excessive limits.
5. Visit often
Visit each other as often as you can without over-stretching your budgets and schedules. Do not live visiting alone to one party. Plan ahead about your visits and make plans towards it.
Spending time together in person will help you learn new things about your partner and remind you of why being in the long distance relationship is worth it.
At the end of the day, know that distance teaches us to appreciate the days we are able to spend together and the importance of patience. It is a constant reminder that every moment you spend with your partner is special , and every second together should be cherished.