We know, most of us have or know someone that attended a bridal shower party and left yawning and bored to death. All the cute gifts and games can be downright boring and this is so wrong as these gatherings are supposed to be fun.

It’s supposed to be an opportunity for family and friends to mingle, enjoy and gift the bride-to-be. And if you’re the hostess tasked with organizing one, here’s how to plan the best bridal shower party ever and say goodbye to bored and antsy guests!

Below are some things to know about bridal showers.

1. Who organizes the bridal shower?

Generally the maid of honor with the help of the bridesmaids are in charge of planning the wedding shower. If there is no appointed maid of honor or bridesmaids, the future bride’s friends could organize a small gathering or outing. Nowadays, anyone can be involved in the planning, except the couple.

Now that the host or hostess has been established, there are no rules to follow! (not anymore!) The world has evolved and we all know this, therefore, there is no set way to do things.

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2. Who Pays for this shower?

With one exception. Whoever is planning the event will cover its cost. But don’t panic! You can always split the cost amongst the rest of the bridal party. Or cut your costs with the bridal shower party ideas you have. Or save cost by hosting it at somebody’s home. Remember to help clean up afterwards!

3.  Who should be invited?

I guess there’s another exception. Try not to invite anybody who’s not invited to the wedding (unless the couple plans to elope or are hosting a destination wedding). There’s nothing more hurtful than finding out you weren’t invited to the wedding but have to buy a wedding shower gift.

Traditionally a shower is supposed to be a women-only affair but you can go against the norm and plan a unisex shower. You can invite the groom’s circle of friends and relatives to get in on the fun too.

4. Do not be afraid to ask for help

Some of us love party planning and some, not so much. So, first rule of fun bridal shower party planning: engage and enlist everybody that volunteers! Start by coming up with a corresponding opinion– there’s nothing wrong with a good brainstorming – and ask who wants to be in charge of what. You’ll be amazed at what people are able to do and how much they want to help out.

5. Announce the Bridal Shower Party Date

Next, it’s time to let everybody know when and where. No need to break the bank on this too: email, whatsapp and text are there for a reason. For all of those guests who do not indulge in digital communications, unless there’s too many of them, a phone call will do.

If you really want to have printed invitations, indulge! Remember to let people know this is a surprise and if they are supposed to bring a gift that matches a theme. Some examples of themes are Ankara theme, vintage theme, lingerie party, and many more.

Either through emails, texts or calls, send them at the very least four to six weeks before the bridal shower party date.