‘Staying In My Marriage Would Have Killed Me’ – Onyeka Onwenu


Legendary singer, Onyeka Onwenu has said staying married would have killed her.

Onwenu, who recently clocked 70, spoke of her marriage in an interview with Kikilomo Atanda-Owo, the media personality.

The former NTA reporter did not want her marriage to end however she added that staying in the marriage would have killed her because it was difficult for her.

She said:

“I went through it, it was difficult because I really didn’t want my marriage to end but I couldn’t take it anymore, it would have killed me,”.

“I always say that that is the truth and it was not good for the children to live in that kind of environment where the mother is depressed, the mother is carrying the weight of the whole family.

“I raised my children from kindergarten to master’s degree. My husband didn’t pay school fees for one day, didn’t buy clothes, didn’t pay for holidays, didn’t give me housekeeping money.


“But he was a nice and kind and generous man and basically, there was control where if you didn’t do the things he wanted, ‘well I’m not going to help you, I’m not going to give you money.

“And I would like to say this to Nigerians, any man who has children has a family and decides not to take care of them, you’ll have to answer to God.”

She also revealed this prompted her to write about it in her book, ‘My Father’s Daughter’ because a lot of women are also experiencing this in their marriages.

Onwenu got married to Yoruba Muslim in 1941 and is the mother of two boys, Tijani Charles and Ibrahim.





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