Living alone can be somewhat scary especially in Nigeria.
First of all, getting an apartment of your taste in a place like Lagos is one of the most stressful, energy-draining things ever (if you have ever tried renting a place of your own, you will understand better).
As a single lady, the odds are against you as it is believed that living alone means you are loose and promiscuous even when you earn a good salary and can afford it.
Not also forgetting the men that also get intimidated when they know that you live alone.
However, as someone who has been there, done that, I can say that living alone is an experience every woman should have at some time in their life.
In a few points, I will be sharing how it has helped me become a better person and why it is important.
Read on below.
1. You automatically become financially independent and responsible
If you have depended on your parents or people all your life, then you will learn a thing or two about independence when you start living alone. Nothing is more humbling than being unable to pay your bills.
It makes you rise to the occasion and curbs wastefulness and excessive spending. This is the time you realise that every penny counts and that you are responsible for all the choices you make. Knowing that there are bills to pay from time to time makes you responsible and this will help you when you get married.
2. You have the freedom to do whatever you want
Living alone comes with a lot of freedom which is limited when you are living with family or friends. There is nobody telling you what to wear, where to go, when to get home, when to cook, what to eat, how to dress, how to cook, when to wash, what channel to watch and the list goes on. If you grew up in a large house, you will understand what I mean.
As someone who doesn’t like to caged or told what to do (especially if I was going to do it anyway), it has given me the liberty to be free and live my life to the fullest without any limitations.
You make the damn rules and you can also break them whenever you like.
3. Your privacy or ‘me time’ is valued
If there is one thing I enjoy about living alone, it is the privacy it gives. As a result, I enjoy my own company and my space. The peace of mind it gives is worth more than all the money in this world.
4. You appreciate the absence of people more
Remember the saying Familiarity breeds contempt; this is applicable here as not being in close proximity with family and friends makes you miss them and appreciate their absence. I now look forward to visiting my folks and spending quality time with them unlike when we stayed together and got into each other’s spaces.
5. You will realise how strong you are in the face of challenges
Life is not a bed of roses and living alone is usually not without its own challenges but the truth is it will make you stronger. It will make you face your fears and also ask for help when needed. When I initially started living alone, I got scared of sleeping in the dark. I will wake up several times at night to check if my door was locked which left me paranoid, but I eventually got used to it.
6. You discover who you really are
Nothing more exhilarating than a woman who knows herself and what she stands for. The period of living alone is a great opportunity for self-development and growth, it will also help you learn about your likes, dislikes, your hobbies, your personality type, your deal-breakers in a relationship, your life goals, and your vision, etc.
Though still on the journey of self-discovery, living alone has afforded me the avenue to grow and discover myself in ways I could never imagine, something over 25 years of living with parents never gave me.
7. You become more productive
Living alone equates to fewer distractions and more productivity. In a case where you work remotely, you will discover that you are able to work efficiently and effectively thereby achieving your career goals.
So Ladies, there you have it, go forth and experience living alone. Trust me, it will be worth it in the end.