There are relationship commandments every girl or woman should live by, as being in love can cause women to lose balance and lose themselves in a relationship.
A lot has been said about what should be done and what should not be done in a relationship, but it’s important to remind oneself about the no-go areas in a relationship.
Here are ten relationship commandments to abide by in a relationship.
1. Thou shalt not date any guy out of sympathy
It is not worth it. It has never been worth the pain, and if you have to date, date for the right reasons.
2. Thou shalt not depend on any man for your daily needs
We all know, as cliché as it sounds, “expect nothing and you will never get disappointed.” I believe it’s even more accurate in relationships. The only expectation you should have is to love and be loved.
3. Thou shalt never fight over a man
Such men usually don’t have regard for ladies. It gives a mirror image of your self-esteem and lack of self-worth, and also makes you look desperate.
4. Thou shalt not remain in an abusive relationship
Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual, or physical and can also include threats, isolation, and intimidation. You should not suffer any form of abuse.
5. Thou shalt not compare him to your ex
You don’t want to be compared to his exes, so don’t compare him to yours. No man is perfect. All you need to do is tell him his weak points so you can both tackle them together. And remember, no man is perfect.
6. Thou shalt keep your relationship private, not secret
If the relationship is up to three months and counting, somebody should know about it. As soon as you can, let your man show his face to your people. Your sister, brother, or mother. This isn’t about you showing off on social media. Just the people that count.
7. Thou shalt not try to control thy partner
No man wants to be with a woman who tries to control his every move because that’s what parents are for. If he wants a boys’ night, give it to him. If you can’t trust your significant other or respect their choices, it will never work.
8. Thou shalt not do EVERYTHING for him
Ladies like to “do” for our men and enjoy it. But don’t take it too far. He has arms and legs too! Enjoy taking care of your man, but after a while, he may start to expect certain things from you all the time, every day. Make sure he can be responsible for his own daily necessities in your absence! Split the responsibilities, tend to his needs, and make sure he tends to yours.
9. Thou shalt not nag
There is no bigger turn-off than a woman who keeps whining. Share your feelings, but do that without needless ranting.
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10. Thou shalt not talk about every one of your relationship troubles with your family
You both argued? You’ll either work it out or you won’t. Telling your family about it never ends well. Your siblings may understand, but your parents might begin to resent him, which makes things difficult in the long run. So don’t bring the problems home to Mommy and Daddy!