Media Personality, Tolu Oniru aka Toolz has opened up on her tough experiences she went through in 2017- the painful experience of losing her baby – in an interview with Genevieve magazine.
Toolz said she was bedridden in the hospital for a while and even though she was shaken and broken, this experience strengthened made her see life in a new perspective.
We have a few excerpts below:
On losing her baby
“I’m much better now, thanks to God. I did sadly lose my baby but I’m almost there now. From the point, we found out something was wrong till when the process was over was quite harrowing, but the parts that really broke me were going through the pain of labour knowing my baby was already gone.
I also had a mini-breakdown when I had to get a death certificate so we could have a burial. I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much in my life.
I would like to encourage other mums in similar situations to stay strong.”
On how her spiritual life changed
“It ultimately strengthened my relationship with God. It made me realise how delicate life is, and as much as we say ‘I will do this or that’ it is inevitably down to God’s will.
In December I wrote that everyone will go through trying times, you just have to pray for the strength to get through it. That’s what God gave me – strength to get through a very horrible experience.”
On how supportive her husband has been
“I actually went into labour whilst I was making his breakfast. I tried to finish because he is such a big foodie, but the pain was too much and I was bundled off in the ambulance.
Maybe it was the gas and air or temporary insanity, but I remember asking the medics to stop so we could get some food for him.
They thought I was mad. We can laugh about that now. I think this experience brought us closer, and also made us realise how much we love each other. He made me pray, and he didn’t give up till I had emptied my heart out.”
On what she used to think about marriage:
“I’m a die-hard romantic, so I did think marriage was going to be like a Disney movie….no arguments, birds singing every morning.
(Laughs) To be honest It’s not quite like that, but I’m very happy. I think what I love most about being married is being part of this team.
It’s amazing knowing that whatever I’m going through good/bad – someone will always be there with me to hold my hand or cheer me on.
I’m an emotional person. So my highs are very high and the lows can be quite low. But this has been the biggest thing I have had to deal with in my life.”