“My Mother Checked My Virginity Every Three Months Before I Got Married” Tope Alabi Opens Up In Recent Interview
Tope Alabi, talented gospel singer got the internet ablaze when in a recent interview, she revealed that her mother was very particular about morality and checked her virginity every 3 months.
She also opened up on life as an actress, being in the entertainment industry, juggling her career with parenting and so many many wise words.
We have below, a few excerpts from the interview:
On her mother’s idea of raising children
“My mother believed that one didn’t have to be immoral simply because she is a singer. Every other member of my family was not pleased with my music career but my mother never took offence. She taught me that a female shouldn’t be too close to men. For example, I was never bathed at the same time with my male siblings.
My mother used to check if my virginity was intact every three months interval before I got married; especially whenever I returned from movie locations. When I newly got married to my husband, we went to the National Theatre in Lagos to watch a movie and actors like Yinka Quadri, Ebun Oloyede, among others were there.
When they saw my husband, they congratulated him and told him that he had chosen a good and exemplary wife. That made my husband quite happy. My mum was very strict and she never spared the rod. She also showed me a lot of motherly love.”
On how she has been able to manage her marriage and career so that none suffers
I have been trying my best and God has been helping me. I work with my husband; so, we are often together. My children have also been wonderful. I always teach them the word of God and they even know how to pray better than me now. My children also critique my ministrations and I learn from them.
On if any of her children are following her footsteps in music?
“Yes. My first daughter, Ayomikun, is currently studying music in the university. She often tells me a lot of things about the rudiments and intricacies of music. I actually wanted her to study medicine but she chose music. She writes good lyrics and I respect her for that.”
On if she is disappointed that she chose music over medicine
“I am happy with her choice. I had told God that the children should become whatever He wants them to become; and not just my wish.”
On how she started recording soundtracks for movies
“I started my entertainment career as an actress and back then, they didn’t do personalised soundtracks for movies. One day, one of my colleagues, Adio Majesta, said I should be able to compose songs for movies. He told me the title of the movie and that was how I started making soundtracks for movies. He believed I could do it because I always sang whenever we were on location and sometimes, I used the incident happening at that particular time to compose songs.”
On her sense of style
“I like to look good. You shouldn’t say that because you are a Christian, you wouldn’t look good; things have to be balanced. I like to wear good outfits, and they don’t have to be so expensive. My father was a tailor and I know how to design clothes. Sometimes, I sketch the attire I want and give it to the tailor to make it.”
You can read the full interview here