8 Clear Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist


Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

A narcissist is someone who is buried in his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced with a highly developed, compensatory false self.

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You might not be able to identify one when you see them, but this post will show you signs to help you identify if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist.

1. They Are Controlling

They want to control everything from finances to decisions in the home. They cannot accept that their partner could take credit for anything. Their nature goes above and beyond obsessive-compulsive behaviour. Sometimes the control can become abusive. When this happens, it’s time to set huge boundaries for your safety.

2. They Are Manipulative

Narcissists can be dangerously manipulative. Depending on how intense their narcissism is, they’ll do everything they can to make themselves feel good at the expense of everything– and everyone– around them.

This can come in many forms, but within an intimate relationship, this often comes in the form of making you meet their self-serving needs such as acquiring things and being a specific type of person– even if that isn’t who you are. They have an image in their mind of what they want and need to be happy and will often stop at nothing to realize it.

3. They Never Apologize

There is no debating or compromising with a narcissist because they are always right. They won’t necessarily see a disagreement as a disagreement. They’ll just see it as them teaching you some truth. And because they never think they’re wrong, they rarely apologize

4. They Act Entitled

Entitlement is another sign of narcissism, however, it’s one which is less exclusive to narcissism itself. A narcissist often acts as if their needs are greater than their partner’s and want those needs to be met without any sort of reciprocal gesture.

5. They Feed Off Your Compliments

Narcissistic people suffer from a lack of emotional commitment. They must be the star of the show at all times. As relationships go, they need to be praised often or they will find attention elsewhere. They have a difficult time providing stability when the newness wears off. The narcissist is always in fear that his insecurities will be exposed.

6. They Are Boundary Breakers

Narcissists love to test boundaries. They’re very likely to do the things you tell them are unacceptable.  That’s why they are more likely to cheat and push your buttons in other ways.

7. They Can’t Stop Talking About Themselves

It’s hardly ever about you when you’re dating a narcissist. Even if you’re the one with the good news or you had a bad day, somehow the conversation becomes about him – his news, his day. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with him, he will either ignore, dismiss or correct you.

8. They Lack Empathy

Does your partner care when you’ve had a bad day at work, fight with your best friend, or scuffled with your parents? Or do they get bored when you express the things making you mad and sad?

Lack of empathy, or the ability to feel how another person is feeling, is one of the hallmark characteristics of a narcissist. People who have NPD are often unable to apologize and understand the feelings and perspectives of others.

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