A healthy and loving relationship requires more than material gifts and possessions. Regular communication, respect, and plenty of good habits from both partners are also required.
Couples need to be careful not to allow some habits to ruin their relationships. Some of these habits are subconsciously displayed without one knowing it.
Here are 9 subtle habits that can ruin your relationship.
1. Snooping
When two people want to make it work, trust is key . Have confidence in your mate and respect their privacy: Don’t snoop through texts, emails, or bedroom drawers.
2. Allowing jealousy to take over
Doubting your partner may be a symptom of a larger problem: relationship insecurity. Studies have shown that women who feel insecure in their relationships may be at greater risk for health issues like a weakened immune system.
3. Worrying about the opinions of others
If you are constantly worrying about what other people think of your relationship, you will drown out your own internal compass, which knows best.
4. Not acknowledging the validity of feelings
Two people may not see eye to eye on something, but that doesn’t mean that either person’s feelings about that thing aren’t valid.
Even if you don’t understand the “why” of someone’s feelings, you must always acknowledge the validity of their emotions.
5. Trying to change the other person
People do change over time, and someone who isn’t working on themselves continuously probably isn’t someone you want to be with long-term.
That said, fundamental traits are not going to change, so instead of trying to make them become someone they’re not, you’d be better off dating someone who doesn’t possess the undesirable-to-you traits to begin with.
6. Harboring resentment
On that note, building up resentment over perceived slights and offences is a surefire way to cause your relationship to eventually implode.
Healthy couples air grievances as they come up so they can work out individual problems in a less dramatic fashion.
7. Keeping scores
This is not a healthy habit, as the give and take in a relationship should ideally feel more free and natural, and not like a competition for the prize of most generous.
8. Doing everything together.
Everyone needs some alone time. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to do every single thing together. Solitude may even enhance relationships, making time together more valuable
9. Lying
Little white lies can add up and ruin a relationship that should be built on honesty. So always be honest with your partner even if you are at fault.
