Contrary to popular belief, you can find happiness without a boyfriend or a husband. In fact, your single days are your sacred days.
It becomes depressing when you attain a certain age and family and friends start asking what’s happening.
These are the days you have the freedom to kick back and enjoy just being with yourself by yourself so stop sulking about your singlehood.
It is the season of love which makes it more complicated and lonely as everyone around seems in love or is taken.
However, you can be single and be happy and these are 13 ways you can live at that moment.
1. Practice self-love
You deserve to be loved not only by those people around you but of course by Yourself as well. Being single is an opportunity to focus on yourself and to look deep inside yourself. Falling in love with yourself first is actually the most important relationship you need to deal with. So do yourself a favor, give yourself a little hug and start to love yourself more. How? Here are some basic tips on how to practice self-love.
Daily positive affirmations can help you to feel happier every day. You may tell yourself: “I am intelligent.” “I can do this.” ‘I am beautiful.” Say anything that would make you smile and that would make you feel appreciated.
Spend more time with yourself, pamper yourself with food or buy yourself clothes. This will help you explore more about yourself, it will take you to a journey learning things about yourself and will also make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.
2. View life on a positive side
Beautiful things will indeed happen if you distance yourself from negative vibes. You will live better and longer if you view life with a positive side. Being pessimistic wouldn’t help you achieve a good outlook in life, it only sees the difficulty in every opportunity while being optimistic sees the opportunity in every difficulty. Optimism is a happiness magnet, so if you want to be happy in life, stay positive, good things and good people will surely be drawn to you.
3. Consider the financial benefits of being single
Being single isn’t stressful because you no longer have to worry about a partner’s needs or desire. You don’t have someone to buy chocolates, flowers or teddy bears on special occasion not unless you want to buy it for yourself. Thus, you can really save money while you are single compared to those who are in a relationship. Instead of spending money on a significant other, why not just spend it on yourself or save it for the future.
4. Spend more time with your family
Surrounding yourself with supportive people will help you feel happy. Always remember that you don’t have to be in an intimate relationship just to be happy. The love and support of your family to yours is already enough to keep yourself happy. They are the ones whom you can trust and can rely on in times you need someone to lean on.
5. Keep in touch with your friends
Surround yourself with those who make you happy. Aside from your family, you also have Friends whom you can count on. But of course, make sure to choose friends who are worth it and real. There are probably things, you can’t share with your family that’s why you have your friends with you. Your friends are the medicine for a wounded heart and a shoulder to lean on. Hang out with your friends and make the most of your time. It’s not how much you have but how much you enjoy with them that makes Happiness.
6. Stay fit and build a happy lifestyle
This is surely the perfect time to reconnect with yourself on a physical level. You may want to start a new exercise program, do Zumba, or even Xbox games that will allow you to work out with others in a fun way. Do things that will help you get into shape and feel good about your body. Also, practice yourself to eat healthy foods because sometimes your diet can affect your happiness and bring your mood down. So, take a look at what you’ve been eating and look for healthier alternatives to have a happy lifestyle.
7. Focus on your career
Instead of ranting about how unlucky you are in a relationship, why not just focus on your dreams. The harder you work for something, the greater the happiness you will feel when you finally achieve it. If you keep on focusing on the problem with your relationship status, the more you will feel bad about it. But if you focus on your career, you will surely have more opportunities. Your success is your happiness, so if you really want to be successful, invest in yourself.
8. Learn to ignore media depictions of happy couples
One of the main reasons why people are not happy and bitter when they are single is because of media depictions that reinforce the idea that they need to be in a relationship enable to be happy. It may be difficult not to get envious seeing sweet couples on your news feed while you’re single, but always remember that you are not the only one who’s feeling that way too. There are many people who are in the same boat as you. Being envious of others just simply robs you of the happiness you deserve. So if you want to be happy in your single life, learn how to ignore media depictions of happy couples because it just literally adds nothing to your life and it devalues the good things you do have. Ignore the way being single is portrayed in movies or television because most of it only has a flair for drama.
9. Step out of your comfort zone
Why not try to do things you’ve never done before, a great way to be happy with being single is to get out of your comfort zone, go somewhere and do something fun and new. Stepping out of your comfort zone will lead you to new friends and amazing experiences. Whatever the situation is, just try to put yourself out there and you will surely gain more confidence and happiness over time. Make sure to try new things, experiment, or have an adventure with yourself or with your friends. Just enjoy your time being single.
10. Achieve independence
Being independent could help you in the future compared to dependent people who rely more on a relationship. Happiness should never be completely dependent on another person, happiness should depend upon ourselves. Remember that if your relationship ends, you become so lost because you’ve been too attached to that person. It is an empowering feeling, knowing that you can get through life without being dependent on others. Thus, you should not only recognize how to be happy being single, but you should also realize a good idea to choose to spend more time to love yourself.
11. Enjoy your freedom
When you are single, you have the freedom to do whatever you want, you are free to be spontaneous without the consideration of significant other. It is still a blessing to have your own time for yourself, although having someone to share your experience with is a joy. Instead of complaining about your relationship status, why not just enjoy your freedom while you are still single? Being single isn’t a time to look for love, yet it is a time to work on yourself and grow as an individual. And always remind yourself that God has a purpose why he put you in that situation, probably in order for you to grow and be independent.
12. Start a new hobby
While you are free of the responsibilities of a relationship, try to start a new hobby. Add something that will inspire you to enrich your life. If you have something you’ve always wanted to do, now is the perfect time to do it. Choose to do something different that will surely challenge you.
13. Recognize the importance of perfect timing
Timing is everything, most especially in a relationship. The time has indeed a wonderful way of showing us what really matters. Instead of being lonely about your relationship status, why not just remind yourself that there is a perfect time for everything. God is probably writing the best story for you. Just wait on God’s timing and you’ll surely have a better result. Be patient and trust that everything will work out.