Pregnancy and childbirth are one of the fragile moments of a woman’s life. This experiences can either make or mar them. It is true that in times past many. Nigerian women took pride in childbearing and saw it as a compulsory duty yet in recent times many women have made it a decision not to have kids or to stick to a certain number of kids.
One of such women is Ozzy Etomi, a feminism advocate who is quite active on the micro-blogging site, Twitter.
Ozzy took to Twitter to share her childbirth experiences and the reason why she isn’t ready to have a second child.
Childbirth is dangerous. Nothing ever goes back to normal. Many near death things occur. We need to stop downplaying it. I still have pelvic girdle pain, and people are telling me “its not fair” to not give my child a sibling. This shop is CLOSED.
— Ozzy Etomi (@ozzyetomi) August 7, 2018
Can we also address the horrible memory loss that comes with childbirth. Is there a science behind this. Because its confusing how since giving birth, my memory is completely SHOT.
— Ozzy Etomi (@ozzyetomi) August 7, 2018
This, of course, sparked a lot of controversies, especially from the menfolk. While some condemned Ozzy’s experience others supported her and this, in turn, moved other women to share their own experiences.
Don’t know how you guys do it, maybe how God created women. If a woman, doubt if I would do the 9 months thing (shuddering thought) talkless of the birthing thing (cant even begin to imagine how to comprehend it).Major Kudos to every woman who has carried or birthed. #Superheroes
— Ejiro Anthony (@ea_anthony) August 7, 2018
All these mothers sharing childbirth stories and the aftermath it leaves on their bodies yearsssss later on @ozzyetomi‘s tweets/threads is wow.
— Diamond-Hope Kingston (@DiamondHope_) August 7, 2018
Lost my mum during childbirth , can’t and don’t wanna think of going through it!
— Dr. kaks (@dr_kaks) August 7, 2018
I wonder how many of you men actually sit down, ask women things, and actually listen.
Most of you have mothers, sisters, friends and lovers in one combination or another.
There are women in your lives. You have no excuse to come embarrass us all here!
— Uncle Dayo (@_Abdul_Malik) August 8, 2018
Many of these experiences were indeed emotional and we thought to share some with you. We believe every woman, unmarried or married can learn a thing or two from these pregnancy and childbirth experiences.
Loss my first child after 3 month on Hosp bedrest at 32 wks. Just had another baby with 8 month of strict bedrst and HG. Delivery was a life theartening one, had a slight uterine rupture, total placenta eruption and meconoium aspiration by baby with no previous CS.
— Fadekemi👑 (@fadekhemmy) August 7, 2018
I’m not a mother yet but my boss had it after her son,so we read about it,increased hormone levels during pregnancy can affect the neurons in the brain,to top dt a careless nurse cut her up during birth,she said the pain was so intense she went numb n dt can induce memory loss.
— JC (@J3nnie_C) August 7, 2018
I was on insulin throughout my pregnancy, giving myself shots and a very restrictive diet because gestational diabetes with cause unknown. Then had to have an emergency CS which shot my BP to an alarming number. I’m still recovering 7 months after
— Funmi (@Funms) August 7, 2018
My baby and I almost died during my first childbirth, but my second childbirth experience was beautiful and went extremely smoothly…
Just because YOU had a beautiful experience, doesn’t mean it’s the norm and that life-threatening complications during childbirth aren’t common.
— Prizzilla (@prizzillla) August 8, 2018
It never goes back to normal, you either add weight or vaginal walls slack or your hair fall off in chunks like mine. Your breast dont just change it shrinks . Had a near death experience &all i could say to God is to please give me a chance to live to see them grow #childbirth
— Haminat (@leeadebisi) August 7, 2018
Who ever said childbirth is easy is just saying it to stop people from being scared. It’s a life changing journey & process. Some many things happen during the journey that makes you even learn to be thankful for the things you take for granted daily
— Noggy (@LionessSue) August 7, 2018
Sometimes death actually occurs too. I died while I was pregnant with my daughter. My heart stopped, I death rattled, the whole thing. I ended up making it back, but not everyone gets to. My daughter was/is okay.
— A Floating Bridge☕ (@Cat_Lance) August 7, 2018