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8 Things Women Need To Stop Apologizing For Right Away


 

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Women have the tendency to apologize for everything. The society we live in makes us unnecessarily conscious and the tendency to feel less about yourself is there. But the truth is we as women owe nobody an apology. Even Queen Bey defends that fact.

These are some of the things we tend to apologize for, but really need to check ourselves and stop doing.

1. Stop apologizing for your body.

Whether big or small, round or straight, there is no reason to apologize for the way your body is shaped. Women are criticized for bodies that are too large (for “health reasons”) and too small (for “health reasons”). The fact is, we all have a different healthy weight and comfortable size. Your health is determined by your doctor, not someone who can only look at your body from the outside.

2. Stop apologizing for your age.

Whether young or old, women can never seem to be satisfied with their age. When we are young we slather on lipstick, put on high heels in an attempt to look “more grown up.” As we get older, the number of face creams, gym memberships and hair colouring trips increases in order to fool those around us of our age. Why does it matter? Why not embrace where we are in our lives and forget about trying to be an age that we are not?

3. Stop apologizing for your achievements.

Whether we have great achievements or none at all, it really is no one else’s business. Sometimes we feel that if only we had this degree or that career or a husband and a small bunch of cherub-like babes at home we will finally be happy; finally be respected. The thing is, there will always be more to accomplish in life. Be happy with where you are right now and stop keeping that secret tally between you and your friends.


On the other hand, if you do have those tangible successes under your belt, no need to say sorry. You can be proud of what you have accomplished without feeling like you are hurting others.

4. Stop apologizing for having feelings.

Whether you are weepy or overjoyed, it is okay to have feelings. Women typically have a wider range of emotions due to something called hormones that we tend to explain away with being “tired” or “emotional” or having “PMS.” Sure we can try to control these feelings and it is more appropriate to cry in private rather than in public, but when it happens, resist the urge to say sorry for the way you feel.

5. Stop apologizing for your occupation.

Whether you stay at home with your kids, work a desk job, write novels or own your own company, never apologize. The amount of money you make or the amount of time spent working is your own business. You should not care if others think you work too little or too much; if your job is menial or not. Your occupation is up to you and you alone.

6. Stop apologizing for what you eat.

Whether you are a super healthy salad-loving gal or burgers and fries are your thing, do not say sorry. You have the right to put what you want into your body. If others are concerned about your health, they can speak with your doctor.

We might feel the need to try to be accommodating and to be friends with everyone, but the truth is that we will just drive ourselves crazy. There is no way to please everyone, so your best bet is to be yourself and stop apologizing for it. When we stop saying sorry for silly these things, we can grow into the most confident version of ourselves.

7. Stop apologizing for expressing yourself

Women constantly face backlash for speaking up at work and in the classroom, they get shut down every time they try to express their opinions or ideas. Unfortunately, this is the case in many social settings for women but either way, women should not apologize for speaking up, they should use their voice and stand up for what they believe in.

8. Stop apologizing for being independent

Women shouldn’t have to apologize for wanting to get an education, for not wanting to get married or for not wanting kids. It’s their life and they should be allowed to do whatever they want with it because at the end of the day it is their life and not yours. Their life choices do not impact you and therefore, they should not have to apologize for it.





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